Everyone should have opposition. It is natural and to be encouraged. If you don’t have opposition, you are not trying hard enough, or you are deluded. Developing appropriate tenacity and displaying the right level of resolve may not win the day, but it should earn the respect of those you are attempting to influence.
The definition of tenacity, which seems most appropriate when it comes to influence in the workplace, is “persistence of purpose”. Tenacity is the ability to display commitment to what you believe in. You keep picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and quickly get going again having learned a little more.
At its best, tenacity allows you to remain open to new ideas because you want to keep learning. Rather than outright rejections of anything to the contrary, if you have tenacity, you will seek opportunities to bring people towards your purpose, even if that means modifying your route or some of the detail along the way. You hold true to your purpose.
Tenacious is not to be confused with bloody-minded, stubborn or pig-headed — none of these will help your relationships at work. Another word which helps to explain what you need to avoid is intransigence — unwilling or refusing to change one’s views or to agree about something.
These attitudes create discord within a team. In effect, they scream, “I’m right, you’re wrong, and to hell with what you think”. Not sure about you, but I don’t particularly welcome working with people like that.
So, in order to develop the constructive tenacity to succeed…
- Be crystal clear about your purpose.
- Remain flexible about the route.
- Listen, learn and then reaffirm your purpose.
- Intelligently connect contrary views to your purpose.
- Build an emotional support network.
- Remind yourself frequently of the benefits (to yourself and others).
- Seek to negotiate, persuade AND inspire people to your cause.
The role of opposition is to help you shine. It exists to stretch and to test your resolve to succeed. Learn and adapt in the face of opposition, and don’t give up before it has had a chance to do its duty.
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