If you have read the other articles here about trust, you should have a pretty good grasp now of what trust is, how it works, and how things can go wrong. Now it is time to make sure you are integrating this into your own world.
This exercise is intended to challenge you to become more aware of trust in your work, and also, perhaps most importantly of all, move you towards building greater levels of trust in your relationships.
Think of someone whom you trust…
- What do they do which tells you that you can rely on them?
- What don’t you trust them with?
Think of someone whom you don’t trust…
- What do they do which tells you that you cannot trust them?
- What can you trust them with?
- What have you done which could have contributed to the lack of trust?
Can you think of an example of when someone did not trust you? What happened? Why?
What do you do which inspires others to trust you?
What things do you do which could cause people to distrust you?
What can you do to increase your predictability/reliability?
What else can you do to increase trust in your key relationship
Building Trust in a New Relationship
The importance of trust in building long-term relationships should be evident to all. A few months back, I suggested a few ways of Building Trust Beyond the Obvious and here I want to step back a little and explore how trust begins when we meet someone for the first time. Understanding the process by which trust emerges can enhance the possibility that you will get it moving a little quicker ― trust doesn’t have to take a lifetime to build.
Assuming you have already read Trust and Integrity Made Simple, you will understand that both parties will have mutual feelings of trust, and that these levels may vary. The best relationships have broadly equal feeling of trust on both sides. Any serious imbalance is going to cause problems, sooner or later…
Are You Worth Trusting? You Sure?
Obvious answer – of course you are! You know that. But, do they?
It is far easier that you may realise for others to distrust you. You don’t need to do anything wrong to see their level of trust in you dip. Indeed, it may be nothing whatsoever to do with you. However, the negative impact on your work will be big.
Below I am going to share thirteen reasons why trust may be declining around you – then you can take steps to arrest any decline, or make sure it doesn’t start to drop in the first place.
Before I do that…
I’m Right, You’re Wrong: Influence Undercurrents
There is a particularly unhelpful undercurrent flowing beneath the surface of many influencing attempts.
Over the last few weeks I have spoken to many people. It is part of my research into the challenges that are holding people back from success. In many of them, I am getting the feeling that they hold the opinion that the person they wish to influence is wrong.
For example, Jane. She wanted to know how to influence her boss, Lukas. She wanted him to support a particular project she was desperate to get off the ground. Jane took me through the rational argument. It was a no-brainer, “Why doesn’t he get it? It’s obvious we should do it!”
As we talked I could feel…