If you listen really well you are likely to hear much that you don’t want to hear. Listening takes courage @colingautrey
Yes, everyone wants to hear the truth about what others think of them, at least at a surface level. However, that inner child is easily provoked and upset ― and then things get emotional. So, perhaps it is safer not to listen too well.
Another barrier is our Reticular Activating System. This little device planted deep within our brains works to interpret inputs in such a way that they support our existing beliefs. Inputs contrary to our beliefs have a tough time getting through. We are literally built to hear what we want to hear, or at least what we expect to hear.
Overcoming both of these takes courage and adjustments to our beliefs. Building self-esteem and confidence that can easily withstand the flow of seemingly negative input takes time but should be continually worked at. Cultivating a strong belief that feedback and objective input is necessary for our success is vital. And, it needs to be strong enough to override the inner child and emotional reactions to unpleasant truths spoken by others.
This additional self-awareness gained from feedback feeds directly into our capability to influence and lead.
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