Soldiering on is what we do when times are bad.
Stiff upper lip. Put a brave face on it. Keep your chin up.
Overdone, this can take a heavy toll on our emotions, mental wellbeing, relationships and eventually, health. Read More
Buckle Up. Toughen Up.
I may be wrong, but I don’t think so, not on this one.
If you are one of those people who is sensitive, easily offended, or takes things personally, you’re in for a rough ride.
The world is turning into a new phase, and for many it will not be pleasant at all.
Stop Fretting the How
When it comes to remarkable achievement, it is never possible to know the how until you have arrived. Most times, at the beginning, it doesn’t even look feasible.
If you fret or worry about the how too soon, you’ll never get moving, and never find the way to make it happen.
The most important investment of your time and energy is on creating a crystal clear vision of what you want to achieve. Then, convincing yourself that (by hook or by crook) you will achieve it, with unshakeable conviction. Read More
Seven Ways to Exorcise Your Introversion
If you’re an introvert, and want to become at least a little more extrovert, here are seven steps to help you say farewell to your introversion, and become a little more extrovert, without it hurting. Read More
Audit Your Reputation
Everyone has a reputation, everyone.
A reputation is simply what other people expect of you.
What do people expect of you?
Unless you’ve put development focus on your reputation, chances are high that their expectations will be diverse, with different people expecting slightly different things.
Few businesses survive by confusing their customers. Businesses want to stand for something in the minds of their customers, and they spend millions building their reputations and brands.
Assuming you’re good at your job, fairly consistent in your work, most of these expectations will be positive - they’ll have a generally good impression of you.
But that is lame. Read More
Diagnosing Relationship Problems
All relationships hit the buffers at some point, both at work and in our personal lives.
Our ability to manage these problems when they arise has a significant bearing on our general enjoyment of life, and of the people in our lives.
It also has a bearing on our success because, let’s face it, not much progress is ever made in isolation - we all need to collaborate and work with others, both at home and in our professional lives.
Having been working with quite a number of people in recent weeks, I thought it might be helpful to share a brief outline of the key areas where conflict can arise, and a simple process to move towards a resolution.
Read MoreAre You Good Enough?
We are all on a development journey aren’t we? No matter what we have achieved, the dizzying heights we have scaled, there is always room for more.
Isn’t there?
So, who are you a role-model to? Who would you like to be a role model for? Or, what specifically would you like others to role-model from you?
Being realistic, how do you actually measure up right now? Be honest with yourself, are you the living breathing personification of your ideal? Have you measured up to what you want the world to notice, admire and hope to emulate?
Yes?
Liar. Read More
STOP Getting Hijacked by Your Emotions
Do you remember the Photocopier game from 21 Dirty Tricks at Work? Well, that was just one example of how dubious characters can play you and your emotions to their advantage.
So you really do need to pay attention to the way you keep reacting, and install some safely measures.
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Certainty is Created by the Certain
Imagine a horse race where all the runners and riders are raring to go, itching to get started but uncertain which way to go. In this race, there is no clear winning post, nor even a rail to guide them round the course. Nobody is certain in which direction to race.
Then suddenly, one rider makes a strong and visible move in one direction, riding hard, with certainty. The others still can’t see which way to go, but worried about losing out, they start chasing the certain one, believing they must know where the finishing line is.
Read MoreInfluence Made Easy
Life is complicated enough without us making it more so.
While I strongly advocate simplicity, it frequently eludes me in my own work. Except, when I’m coaching.
Yesterday was a prime example of this. My client all-but slapped his forehead as yet another simple concept landed. Concepts that he already knew and accepted, but had been buried in the maelstrom of confusion, distraction and stress.
Which is why I love my work as a coach so much. Being that independent outsider ready, willing, and able, to reflect back the blindingly obvious to help people make significant and effortless shifts in their thinking and progress.
So, stimulated by the last few coaching calls, here are nine simple ideas that can help you to become more influential without too much effort or energy. Read More
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